Sisterhood, Faith & Relationships with Life coach Tedrah Paul

[00:00:01] . Welcome, welcome, welcome, one and all. Welcome to 12th Street Talk Back. Freedom Fridays. It's your girl, Victoria J. Back in the building one more time. Guys, today I have a treat for you as always on Fridays. But guys, you know what we do.

[00:01:29] Let's get into giving God some praise, some afternoon praise, wherever you're at, where are you sitting, possibly laying or even still at work. Go ahead and sneak off and give God some praise. Heavenly Father, we come humbly but boldly to the throne of grace today,

[00:01:49] casting all of our cares upon you today. Heavenly Father, we ask today that everything that we do, Father God, we remember that it is your grace and it is your mercy and it is sufficient every single day, Father God, we thank you for the fellowship.

[00:02:06] And we thank you, Father God, for our special guest, Tadra Paul. Heavenly Father, continue to bless her from the crowns of her head to the soles of her feet, Father God, Heavenly Father, we know that you're able to do all things, Father God.

[00:02:21] And as we continue in our day to day, Father God, let our cricket pad be straight before your face. In the mighty name of Jesus, we plead the blood right now over our hearts, minds, bodies, every person that has ears to hear. Let them hear.

[00:02:41] Everybody that has eyesight to see, let them see. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray, amen. Amen, guys, and amen. So listen, guys, today we got in the building Tadra Paul. Tadra is a Christian and relationship coach. She's dedicated to Christian and relationship coaching.

[00:03:12] And she's on a mission to empower women in their journey towards self discovery, divine connection, as well as strengthening their relationship with God and purposeful, you guys know I can't talk, purposeful living. A little bit more about Tadra, she's a firm believer in God and the

[00:03:38] transfer transformation power of faith and love. She loves life to be dedicated to supporting women who are ready to embark on a journey of self discovery, deepening their relationship with God and unlocking their true purpose. She understands that the path of self

[00:03:58] love and confidence is uniquely personal and coaching. And her coaching is rooted in the principles of Christian faith, love and empowerment. Her mission is to guide women in discovering the profound love of God and finding their purpose within his defined plan and to also discover how

[00:04:20] absolutely loving and miraculous our father, God, is. She specializes in coaching women who are seeking a deep connection with God, desiring to navigate the difficulties and complications of relationships and want to grow in self love and confidence. She offers through her services, integrating biblical principles into coaching.

[00:04:49] She helps women build a strong foundation of faith, fostering a deep connection with God as they navigate life's challenges. Guys, welcome. Welcome to the show. Miss Tedra Paul, all the way from across the pond. We are happy, happy to have you in the building. Hello, lovely. Thank you.

[00:05:21] How are you today? I am good. I'm good. I'm very excited to be talking with you. I know like our last conversation was just amazing. It was. I was excited to talk to you today as well.

[00:05:39] You know, I've been nosing around your website and all the wonderful things that you have going on, I love the fact that I popped on your Instagram yesterday and I seen all this inspiring stuff like

[00:05:55] quotes from the Bible and you're just so happy go lucky and just it really lifted my spirits to see that. So I am excited to have you here. Can you tell my audience because I know they don't know.

[00:06:13] Tell them a little bit about you will get into your life coaching, but tell them about who Tedra Paul is as the woman. The woman. Oh, gosh, that is such a good question. But I am a mom of four. I have got a stepdaughter and three little ones.

[00:06:39] I'm a wife, a mom, a friend and a daughter. So, gosh, I am I'm a very outgoing person. I love getting to know people. I love being around people, you know, sharing that love together, having dinner parties. I just love, you know,

[00:07:08] being with people, that's the type of person that I am. So you are a people person. I am a people person. I am too. So that's probably why we mesh well in the first conversation. I'm a people person, probably to a little bit more of an extent

[00:07:23] than I want to be because I'm a people pleaser as well. Yeah, you can't help yourself. You can't help yourself, especially. I mean, that's what God wants us to do. He wants us to be rooted and grounded in love, that agape love and,

[00:07:41] you know, the same love that he showed us. So as we walk this earth, you got to find joy and peace in him. And if you've got joy and peace in him, then you have got it all. And you can spread that.

[00:07:54] So I'm glad you're a happy person. You don't look a mom of four. Thank you. I would say that you don't look at it. And that is a great compliment to thank you for joining the 12th Street Top Back Freedom Friday show. What can we get into today?

[00:08:18] Well, tell us about life coaching, the Christian life coaching, because there's a difference, we have all kinds of life coaches out here in this day and time. You are my second life coach to come on to the show that is a Christian life coach.

[00:08:38] So I would like to hear your perspective on how you coach your clients in that role. As a Christian life coach, I work with my clients to help them build a stronger relationship with God.

[00:08:54] So what I do is I meet with my clients either face to face or online. And we just get down. We get down to business. I help them develop that relationship with God. A lot of my clients, they know God, but they don't know their relationship with God.

[00:09:18] They don't know how to deepen that relationship and how to be more intimate with him, how to be in constant conversation with him. So what we do in my coaching is I help you create a life that you love and that is completely rooted in Christ's word.

[00:09:40] So what I do is I go through different methods. I go through different things that we do, we talk about. So for example, like our help with the childhood traumas and generational trauma. And then we go through things like relationships. What's happening with their friendships?

[00:10:03] What's happening with their personal relationship with their partner, their parents, their grandparents. And we really dive deep into what is it that is in them that they're trying to bring up, but you know, it's still in there. Like a lot of trauma that we hold back.

[00:10:21] We don't even know that it's affecting us as adults. A lot of things that we experience or see when we're younger, we don't know that, you know, this is like the cause of the way that we behave now as we're older.

[00:10:34] So what I do is I help them see that, you know, this is why this this is like this. And then a lot of the times I get the question of, well, why did God let me go through that? Why did God put me in that situation?

[00:10:51] And it's like, oh, yeah, yeah, for me, I've really had to understand that. I don't believe that God puts us in situations that are harmful for us. I believe that God allows us to stay in situations because he knows that that situation is going to make us stronger

[00:11:10] and better for the future us. So everything that I've been through, everything that I've experienced, I know, I now know that it was for me to be here today if I hadn't gone through all of that,

[00:11:23] I wouldn't be able to help other women, you know, overcome those obstacles and challenges because I wouldn't have experienced them myself. And I wouldn't have known how they're feeling. And I wouldn't have been able to put myself in their shoes.

[00:11:36] So I see that everything that we've gone through and we're younger, I think that, you know, we feel like was like the worst thing in this world. God was like, no, I'm preparing you for something. There's something better out there for you.

[00:11:50] And that's what I teach my clients to see. I want them to see that they have such amazing purpose. They have a big future and they have so much potential. They just need to get down to the root of the problem and then branch by branch,

[00:12:08] let it all out and release it and then start to have that faith that God has bigger and better plans for them. That's right. That's right. You touched you tapped into something when you said that in me, you know, that's what it's all about.

[00:12:25] When we start to understand that God's purpose and his plan for our life is way bigger than what we can imagine because he does say it in his word, Jeremiah 29, 11, you know, my plans and my thoughts that I have

[00:12:41] for you, and I'm putting it in my own layman's terms. They are way bigger than we could possibly imagine. And I remember, you know, going Sunday after Sunday to church with my grandparents and my mom and getting to be

[00:13:02] an adult and kind of slipping away from that lifestyle. Because, you know, when you grow up in it, you kind of get grown and I'm 18 and I want to do things my way. And as parents, we're both parents. Your parents tell you, you'll find yourself coming back

[00:13:21] to your roots and I found myself coming back to my roots. It did happen later on in life in my 40s, but I'm glad that I'm here. And in my circumstance with both parents, both sets of grandparents being deceased, you find yourself having to stand and face everything

[00:13:44] that God wants you to face, you don't have that cushion to run to mommy or daddy and ask them to pray for you while you're still doing your own thing, you really have to put on your big girls panties

[00:13:59] and make that choice if you're going to dedicate your life to Christ and you're going to walk the way that he wants us to walk. Or if you're going to continue conforming to the world, as he says in Romans 12, too,

[00:14:14] he tells us how to conform to the world, but be transformed by the renewing of our mind. So once you get to that level as people, I think we start to look at the glass instead of half empty but full.

[00:14:29] So I'm glad that that's something that you bring to your clients. How do they reciprocate it? Do they know before that you are a Christian life coach or do you have you have those ones that did not know?

[00:14:49] So I've had most of them have known that I'm a Christian life coach, but I've had some that have asked me, do you also work with non-Christians? Because I think that was like a company and they wanted me to work with women

[00:15:06] that are going through difficulty or that are being hidden from home because of domestic violence and things like that. So they wanted to know, am I able to help them in a capacity that I didn't actually have to bring my faith in it?

[00:15:21] Or like schools, they'll ask me to come and work with them, but not necessarily mention that I'm a Christian because parents don't like that. However, in those sessions, if the kids say, ask me about my faith, I will hands down tell them everything about my faith.

[00:15:41] I won't hide it. I won't, you know, not say anything, but I will be the first one to mention it if that makes sense. Yes, yes, it does. It does. I kind of I grew up in the era where we still did the pledge allegiance

[00:15:57] and we still had prayer in the church and I'm telling my age here. And I think it's in my personal opinion, I think it's a shame that they took it out. I think it should be a preference.

[00:16:08] And, you know, the same way that we divide so many different things up in classes, I think that should be one offered for those families that want to be a part of the Christianity war or whatever religion that they're in.

[00:16:24] But, you know, as we grow, maybe we will get there. So, Tedra, tell us how does this method help your clients? Because I did, like I said earlier, I visited your website. I saw that you had workbooks, you had videos on there.

[00:16:46] I didn't download anything, but I saw lots and lots of goodies. And you offered a free session or a free workbook or something of that nature. Tell us a little bit about what we get when we go to your website and what all the goodies that I saw.

[00:17:06] So when you go, you'll find you'll be able to get like a free breakthrough session, which is something that we'll go through and we'll just look at your goals, what you desire in life and how you work through them, what you need to do to achieve those goals.

[00:17:27] And then from that, you can either join, for example, in my three week intensive, which is a one to one coaching program. And in there, we dive deep into strengthening your relationship with God, finding your purpose, who you are, who God is. And we really focus on

[00:17:50] like getting out whatever is in you, if that makes sense. So what I do with that one is I personalize it to each individual person because I've had people that come with childhood trauma and those traumas can be

[00:18:06] a list from one to a hundred and each one of those traumas need to be dealt with. You can't just deal with them as one thing. You have to do them each one slowly. So I've had a client that will come in and do it by bit.

[00:18:22] I've had another one that's come and they have struggled with like their family expectations. In this, I'm from Zimbabwe, so in our African culture, there's so much expectations of getting married, having kids, having the right job at a specific age, but it's like

[00:18:44] we can't all do that at the same age. God has different plans for everyone. It's really trying to get them to understand that it's not about everyone else. It's about the things that God has for you. So, yeah, so then we've got that.

[00:19:00] And then I provide like one to one coaching if people want to just come in and just, you know, have a cry, have a prayer, have a little chit chat. And I think that environment is just good for them to just release it

[00:19:13] to someone that can understand how they feel for themselves in their shoes. And then we've got my membership, which is something I love dearly. I love my membership. It's a community full of women just want to be sisters.

[00:19:33] Women that are just ready to grow, learn and love God together. And yes, like the Bible says, it said with two or more gathered. And that's that is why I created the membership, because like when we're all together, we can praise, we can wish and cry.

[00:19:52] We can sing, we can dance. We can just be ourselves. And that was the key thing, like to be ourselves because most of the time we're not authentic when we're out there with our friends or other people or colleagues,

[00:20:06] because we want to try and, you know, show this thing that, you know, I'm this type of person and I need to be cool. I need to look cute. But it's like you're actually cool and cute the way you are in your owner and your

[00:20:22] whatever, because I've got like clients that will come in and they're like, it's maybe midnight for them. And then some of them it's like 6am and some of them is 12pm. So it's like everyone just comes as they are. And it's literally what the Bible says.

[00:20:38] Come as you are and we can celebrate and love God together. So that's why that membership is like so dear to my heart. And that's the one thing that I like. Let's get more women in there. Let's be sisters. I'm Lisa.

[00:20:59] We talked about sisterhood and I am big on sisterhood and I love how you put all that together because he did say in his word where two or more are gathered, I am there so in the midst. So I love that.

[00:21:14] I love that they can be their artistic self. And that's something I think that we struggle with as a whole because I had my fair share of struggling with it being but it kind of was flit for me.

[00:21:29] If that makes sense, I grew up in a Christian household, got into the world on my own and started to be somebody that I wasn't. And now I've always been happy, go lucky, bubbly, funny, loud, the jokester.

[00:21:48] And now as I embrace that and my forgiven nature, which God just showed me a few months ago, almost a year now to embrace who I really was. I'm getting the flip reaction simply because they know me as the loud,

[00:22:07] the rah rah and it's like, I can't believe this girl has changed. Some people, I'm not going to say everybody in my circle because I wasn't wilding out, but I would say some people that knew me when I was out

[00:22:21] partying and clubbing and things like that, they knew that girl and they never got a chance to meet this girl because I was always trying to fit in. So I love the fact that you said is a sisterhood. They can come as they are.

[00:22:37] And because we are in two different time zones, you know, I imagine it could be 12 midnight somewhere and six o'clock somewhere. But your workshop is that a workshop or is that a seminar? So that was a membership. Sorry. So it's like a membership. Yeah.

[00:22:58] So we meet every week on a Thursday and we meet for like an hour. And then we have Bible study, we have teachings and then we have hot seat coaching, which is like when they come and whatever questions that they want to ask me, we deal with them.

[00:23:14] And then we work through them, you know, using the guidance from God and everything. Oh, wow. Well, I was reading your bio and you said in your bio, you've been married for 10 years. Is this something that you and hubby do together?

[00:23:31] Or is this just a Tetra thing that God called her to? And she said, yes. And just it took off. You know what? Honestly speaking, this was something that God called me to and Tetra hesitated for a long time, a good four months.

[00:23:50] But when she finally said, yes, I finally started to see transformations within my house. So I truly believe that, yes, God called me to do it. But it was also something to transform my children and to transform my husband.

[00:24:08] Ever since I accepted my calling and I started living within my purpose, my husband has been more even though like when we talked about it, he was a bit like, OK, that's fine. Just remember, like, you know, that's your thing. I'm not really into it.

[00:24:24] But now he is like, we're going to church. He is playing like gospel music. He is playing the kids like gospel shows and things like that. My step daughter goes to a Bible study every single week.

[00:24:40] My kids will wake up and they'll tell me, mommy, I had a dream. I gave God a love heart. I was like, OK. I'll have precious. So it's like I feel I believe that, yes, God called me for this purpose. So do you?

[00:24:58] It is my journey, but it's my journey to transform my household. It's not just for me, it's for all of us. And yeah, me and Habib pray together. And, you know, he's slowly getting there. I feel like there's a time for everyone and his time will come.

[00:25:15] But right now he's just he's just following my lead. You know, I'm the next. He just goes wherever I go. Oh, I totally get it. I totally I totally get it. Even though hubby and I we do go to church together, we pray together

[00:25:28] and we even occasionally read read the word together. But this whole podcast thing is not his zone. It wasn't his zone. And when I first started at I was talking about things in the world that concerned me that I was worried about, not just for, I guess, people.

[00:25:49] But I was concerned that I have young adults out there. And if I'm seeing all this stuff going on on social media, I can imagine what my children are up against because they have a whole lot to contend with

[00:26:03] a whole lot more than we had to contend with. And at looking at that, I started to talk about the things of the world. But then I switched it. I mean, you know how it is when God just keeps on nagging.

[00:26:21] And that may that may not be the right word, but he is very persistent and gets very it's those awkward moments where you're like, is it me talking? But it is constant. So, you know, it's not really you thinking that hard about changing your

[00:26:40] whole dynamic the way you had it planned in your head. And I finally gave in last November and I said, you know what, God, I am going to change the whole platform to strictly faith based. And I wasn't too gung ho,

[00:26:57] but I knew that I did want to continue to include him in everything that I did. Even when I was talking about the things in the world, I would always start off with a two minute prayer.

[00:27:08] And then I incorporated a whole set of just two minute prayer Monday through Friday and gave it its own umbrella. Well, here, almost six months later, it's all about him, the great I am, the apple and the. It's all about him.

[00:27:30] And I look at it some days and I say to myself, are you sure you wanted me to do this? Because we can get a little, I don't know, I guess, hesitant, I would say.

[00:27:46] But I will ask you this because I always get the question of being an ordained minister and I just do Bible study. Do you get the same questions and how do you explain that to your clients? Are you ordained or are you just doing your ministry with

[00:28:05] empowering women and helping in relationships? So I am, but I also that's something that has been in my heart for a while to get ordained again, if that makes sense. So I am ordained, but I feel like because it was such a long time ago,

[00:28:26] I wasn't in the same headspace as I am now. Do you know what I mean? So now I'm in like, honestly, right now, I feel like I'm a whole new person. Like I am a brand new person.

[00:28:38] Like when it says in Romans 6, 4, it talks about Jesus giving you life. Yeah, he gave me a new life. Like the person I am today is not the same person I was eight months ago. So I feel like, yes, even though I am ordained, I would love to

[00:28:58] get baptized or something again, just as this person that I am today. I totally understand because I wrestled with that when I first came back to Christ, getting re-baptized, even though I got baptized in my 20s, I did that because my mother wanted me to do it.

[00:29:19] It wasn't a decision that I made on my own. So here lately, I have been thinking about it for like the last year of getting re-baptized. And talking to other ministers or bishops, they was like, you know, you were in your 20s.

[00:29:34] I think you were baptized with the Holy Spirit, which I have been. So it's a personal choice. You don't have to get dipped again. And the same thing with the ordain. I have been ordained, but I got ordained online through some classes

[00:29:48] and I don't feel like I got what I wanted. So I want to go to school and really dig in. So not that not for people, not for the show, but for me personally. I have all these books that I'm constantly scouring.

[00:30:07] You may come across a scripture or something that you think, you know, the parable or you think, you know what it means. And then you go to your commentary and it doesn't quite match up to what God was really saying.

[00:30:22] So I'm just my whole desk is full of books every day. And I'm going to this one and that one and making sure that for me, that is deposited in me the right way if that makes it. It does, because I think sometimes

[00:30:42] I haven't said this with one of my clients there that day, because we were reading the Bible together and I had read this first the day before and oddly enough, so had she. But then when she read it,

[00:30:55] she got a completely different thing to when I read it. And then when we read this next day together, we both got something completely different to what we both had the days before. So I feel like sometimes when we're reading the Word and we're really trying

[00:31:13] to have that conversation with God, the same verse can tell me and can tell you two different things, two different things. And then when you reread it, it can give you another. And it doesn't mean it doesn't negate

[00:31:30] what it gave you the first time, you know, but it's just the way that you hearing it from God now, and that's what I'm trying not to do, is be a studier of the word, but let him fill me up with, you know, with his word.

[00:31:47] And that's where he tells us about our helper over in St. John, the Holy Spirit. Once you've got the Holy Spirit, you can ask him to come along and help you, you know, give you some advice. Yes, yes, yes. So we talked about

[00:32:06] you being a Christian life coach in relationships and empowering women. Let's tackle each one of those. What does Pedro do to empower women? Because I am all ears. I'm going to let you go for it. OK, so my biggest

[00:32:28] my biggest thing with women empowerment is that I feel like there's been a lot of talk about it over the years, but there's not been a lot of action. So we've, you know, had all these things that were going on. Women empowerment, this women empowerment, that.

[00:32:44] But women empowerment has more than just me as an individual woman. It is about all the other women around me. So for me, being a life coach and having that women empowerment is about bringing other women into my world,

[00:33:00] into my space and showing them that there's so much more within them and there's so much more with their lives and where they're going that we need to let that out. We need to let more women in this world

[00:33:15] know that they are stronger than they think they are. We're so like there's so many levels to this world that even the other day I was speaking to one of my friends, friends, and she was telling me, like, you know, apparently nowadays

[00:33:33] us black women are now seen as, you know, lower and lower and lower. So it's like black men and then black boys and then the women or something like that, and I was just like, I was so confused. I was like, what happened to all the,

[00:33:52] you know, women supporting each other and then having their men supporting them and, you know, no longer having those, you're up here, I'm down here, but actually I get that we're not equal, but we still have to work together, you know.

[00:34:09] So I want to help women and I want them to understand that, you know, we're powerful, we have so much potential in this world. But then having that potential does not mean that we are downgraded or we downgrade other people. No, it is actually about bringing all

[00:34:29] of us together, even those men and boosting everyone up and helping yourself like be that powerful person. You're a light. You know, you are the light that is meant to shine this world. And, you know, when things get dark,

[00:34:45] be that person in your house that will say, OK, things are getting dark, but let's bring the light back out. Let's start again. And, you know, let's build this life that God has planned for us. That's right. I am here for women in parliament, but the correct. Correct.

[00:35:04] I love it. I love it. I love it, Tejra. I have to tell you, I think on the same lines as you, because I do feel like I didn't look at it in that way, though,

[00:35:17] in a way you explained it because you said you were kind of discombobulated. This is the first I have to tell you of me hearing it that way. But I think sometimes in our households,

[00:35:28] which is supposed to be God, the husband and then the wife and then the children. But in society, I never really thought about it that way. But I have felt even just not in this business of podcasts. And I had a couple other businesses on my own.

[00:35:48] The support, the support. And I hate to be stereotypical, but the support in the black community and the African-American community amongst women, I think sometimes, like you said earlier, which is my slogan, transparency, transparency looks so different in public.

[00:36:15] But then when you get behind closed doors and it's so funny that you said that because I actually have been working on a piece for the show and it was called Women Supporting Women in Business.

[00:36:29] And I've been doing all this research for the last two weeks because I do feel like we don't support each other enough. It does not hurt to tune into a podcast, even if you can't stay

[00:36:41] the whole time, it doesn't hurt you to pop in and type, hey, how you doing? I can't stay. It doesn't hurt you to go to that business and support, even if you only have 10 bucks. It doesn't hurt you to give resources. You may have started a business.

[00:37:02] It does not help to let someone else know how you got that capital, where you got those resources from. And I think especially in our community, we held that stuff. We hold it so close to the vest. And then it's almost like that crabs in a bucket mentality.

[00:37:22] Everybody wants to get out of the bucket, not just one person. So I think if we did more of a sisterhood and including the brothers, not just a sisterhood, but I'm saying that because, you know, we're women and we think like that.

[00:37:38] But that bothers me that we can't seem to do that sisterhood and we'll fake it for the social media pages and even out in public, like we're really that uplift and powerful person. But then I've been disappointed when I've met some people in person thinking,

[00:38:04] you know, just looking from their social media pages, thinking that, wow, you know, I wish she could tell me I wonder if she'd tell me how she did X, Y and Z and get met with a whole different person.

[00:38:19] And I know we have our good and bad days, but that sisterhood, I do think it's important not only in business, but definitely in our personal lives as well. Yeah, no, it's true. That is true. And I think something that you said was like

[00:38:36] when you have that sisterhood, right? It's not just about them, they're doing this. So if I ask them, I should be scared to ask you, oh, by the way, Victoria, when you started your podcast, how did it go? Are there any tips that you've got for me?

[00:38:57] I feel like a lot of people are scared to do that. But it's like I should just be welcome and open to ask you, I want to do this. Can you help me out with this?

[00:39:08] Or someone will approach me and say, I really want to be a Christian coach. You know, how did you start? How did you go about? Let's have a conversation. I'm literally that person that'll be like, OK, yeah, let's let's do a call. Let's go for it.

[00:39:23] And one of my close friends now we met through life coaching and she is literally like my best friend and she lives all the way in America. I live in the UK, but we are constantly on the phone.

[00:39:36] We're constantly helping each other out because we want to grow together. We don't just it's not just about me growing. She is to grow too. So whatever tips I can give, however tips she can give me, we can grow together and that's how you build that.

[00:39:52] I would say Christ centered friendship because we know that we're in this for a reason and the purpose is to bring God's to bring people into God's kingdom. So I am here for the system and I love it. I am too. I am to power to the sisterhood.

[00:40:13] I am to I am and here recently, you know, God just laid it in my spirit. Take it beyond just having guests on your show because it is freedom Fridays and friends were telling our testimony. But equally, if you're not a Christian,

[00:40:29] I don't mind if you're an entrepreneur and you come onto the show and want to promote your brand respectfully, of course, remember that, you know, this is a safe platform, but I want to honor God first. But I don't have that.

[00:40:45] Oh, you can't come on if you're not a Christian as well as any of my guests. I go on if I go down your social media pages and I see something that you're doing wonderful and you were on my show six months ago.

[00:40:58] I'll post it in my story. I've had people tell me you've got more other people's stuff in your story on Instagram than you do your own stuff. But I think that is the point of forming those bonds because you never know

[00:41:14] who may have that information that you may need or like you just said, you developed a friendship with someone over here in the U.S. and you're in the UK. You never know who you're going to bond with.

[00:41:30] And I like to take it a step further in my faith. Well, you never know who God's going to put in your path for one reason or several reasons. I'm firm believer when he put this idea in my head to take it all the way

[00:41:46] and make it about him, I'm a firm believer that the outcome is going to be a wonderful group of women and men all for the kingdom of God and our paths are going to stay connected somehow. And then I had someone come along and confirm that

[00:42:07] in a prophecy over me, she said, you know, you your show, she said, you're healing and I said, yeah, I said, I'm in my healing process and she didn't know that about me. She knew nothing about me. She said, well, God wanted me to tell you

[00:42:22] that as well as you're healing, your show is going to heal people. And literally everyone that's come onto the show, they have a testimony. It's similar, if not way more informative than what I could ever possibly imagine. And then there are authors.

[00:42:44] That was another thing that she told me that I never told anybody that I've been writing books for years, but I just didn't publish anything. I don't think anybody wanted to hear anything that I had to say.

[00:42:55] So it was kind of like a diary slash, you know, things that you go through in life, but I'm a firm believer that when he puts people in your life, it's for a reason now, you may not be meant to go into business

[00:43:11] with everybody, but that connection building a strong networking connection and even a sisterhood, you never know. I might call you and say, Tadger, I need you to pray for me because he could tell us to reach out. You know, he did.

[00:43:27] And that's one thing that I love about my coaching and I've left it open for my clients, like to be able to reach out to me whenever they need me. Like I was mid my uncle's birthday and I had a client call me in floods of tears.

[00:43:48] I am not going to like be like, yeah, no, I'm busy. No, I picked up that phone. We prayed. We cried together and we were on the phone for like an hour or two. But for me, it's not just about

[00:44:04] the coaching, it is about that friendship and being there for one another. And supporting each other through whatever crisis is going on. And one of the things is that our time differences, they make they play a big

[00:44:20] impact. So for me, when it's like midnight, 2am, it's like 5pm or something from someone else. I always like to make sure that I let my clients know that this isn't just yeah, it's a, you know, a client and, you know, relationship, but it's also more than that.

[00:44:44] Like there's a reason why God has brought them to me. There are many Christian coaches out there. But why is it that we have connected? And there's always like I'm a true believer. There's always a reason for that. Yep. You're exactly right. He will.

[00:45:01] He has the ones that he assigns to us and we don't know it, but he knows it. So what are some of your biggest challenges that you face as a life coach? I think it has to be really getting people to understand that there's a reason for everything.

[00:45:21] Like I the constant question I get is, yeah, but how do you know? How do you get that feeling that it's God speaking to you? How do you actually know that it's not all in your head? And it's like it's trying to explain to them that you know.

[00:45:43] You know, I think that is that is honestly my biggest thing because for a long time I struggled with it. I thought to myself, oh wait, is this in my head or is it something that, you know, I'm making up or is it really God?

[00:46:01] But then I found that it's important to when you have that vision, when you have that thought, when you have that feeling. Number one, what I do is I pray and I open the Bible. And more times when I open the Bible,

[00:46:16] yeah, God leads me to the exact verse that I need to read for that feeling that I've got. He is constantly reminding me of exactly what I need to be doing, who I am and why I am doing what I'm doing. In life we will always have doubt.

[00:46:38] There will always be doubts of, you know, our identity, our purpose, our calling, what we're meant to be doing in life. And for a long time I didn't understand why God had, why God had different calling for different people.

[00:46:56] Like I never understood why he wanted me to help people. And for me it was a matter of, I love people. I love helping people. But why me? Like all the people in this world, why me? So it's really getting people to understand that they need to connect

[00:47:15] with God and really have that, you know, consistency with him and discipline for you to be able to hear and actually say, OK, this thing is God speaking to me. This one I just made it up in my head. That's right. That's right.

[00:47:32] And I still do that, but you're right. And since I've been walking with him, the same thing has happened to me. This thought of popping in and it'll linger and linger to the word and read something or the most famous is the very word

[00:47:54] that I just read in scripture, I'll go to church and the bishop is preaching. No, the very. Yeah, I just can't. And I'd be like, God, OK, I know it was for me. And sometimes I just laugh.

[00:48:08] I say, God, you got a funny way of just doing stuff that you still have that. And I constantly try to remind myself you cannot be double minded. Go for it. Because if God told you to do it, there is a reason even with this

[00:48:28] platform, you know, when I'm not conversing with guests on Monday and Wednesday reading the word and then go into my commentary, breaking it down. And I'm not, you know, the best person to do that. But he placed in me, beginners Bible study. You're beginning to understand my word.

[00:48:50] Why not fellowship with other like minded people? And then you have the ones that are advanced that some of them say you shouldn't be doing that, but you don't know what God has called me to do. I'm not minister to anybody. We're reading the word.

[00:49:06] I'm giving my perspective and I'm also giving it from a whole couple of books that scholars wrote as the breakdown of the word. And I'm still learning. And I say to those people, God said, do everything out of love, do nothing in oppression. He was about love.

[00:49:25] So anybody that wants to know about our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ after we're saved, that's our mission anyway. We are to spread the good news. And let them know that's what we're supposed to be doing.

[00:49:40] So I totally get it with that being a challenge because it can be a little bit. We still think about it like, God, was that really you? But I guess once they get there, do you have many clients once they get there, they say,

[00:49:56] now I know what you're talking about. Yes, they'll be like, now I know the difference. They'll be able to tell like, OK, this one is God speaking to me. And I think more times is the fact that they'll go and they'll pray about it.

[00:50:11] Because often I found that, like when I was beginning my journey, I would have this vision, I would have these thoughts, these feelings. But then I didn't pray about them. I just sat on them and I was just like, is it God?

[00:50:25] Is it me? But once they got the understanding that, OK, let me pray about it, let me look at my Bible, let me just spend, spend some minutes with God and be still. Then they're like, OK, I see what you mean now. Now it's making sense. Yeah.

[00:50:43] You pray about it and you meditate on that word. And my auntie, my great auntie, she's my favorite. She said, you know, the first thing in the morning, lay still. Just lay still. Remember to thank God, but lay still.

[00:51:00] Most of us jump up, we hit that alarm clock, our feet hit the floor and we go running. And she taught me nothing that you do is going to be such a hairy that you can't lay still

[00:51:15] and thank God for breathing his breath into your body another day. And then when you do that, it's meditating with yourself, but it's communing with God, just thanking him for all the wonderful things. You don't worry about what happened yesterday. Today is a new day, a new beginning.

[00:51:35] And when you have those thoughts, they come back around. Then you really go into prayer. And let me get in my word and see if it's really God or if it's me telling me that I'm qualified to do this.

[00:51:51] We've been talking a lot about, you know, the Christian walk. And I wanted to ask you how important is your faith to you? I can tell. But for the audience, how important is your faith to you? My faith has honestly become everything in my life, like absolutely everything.

[00:52:13] If I could show you the person I was eight months ago compared to the person I am today, like my own mother cried because she was like, who is this person? My auntie came all the way from New Zealand, sat me down and said,

[00:52:30] I am so proud of the person you have become. And it's like without my faith, I wouldn't be able to see. I feel like I was blind. I can't lie. Like I genuinely feel like I was blind. I never used to think about my children's futures.

[00:52:51] I never used to think about my future or like mine and my husband's marriage. Those were just things that I just thought they were there. And I just, you know, I was just like, yeah, they're here. But now I literally see like without faith,

[00:53:09] things could have gone a different way within my marriage. Things could have gone a different way with my children. But having that faith and like you were saying, like waking up in the morning, the first thing I prayed to God

[00:53:20] is thank you for waking up my whole household today. Thank you for protecting us. And before I do anything, I cannot my like I genuinely my feet cannot move and go wake up my kids before I kneel down and pray. It's just not possible for me anymore.

[00:53:37] But before, I think I would wake up 30 seconds before I needed to wake up my kids. So I just go brush my teeth, go wake them up. But now, yeah, yeah, I want my faith is my life. Yeah. And you get that way. You get that way.

[00:53:55] And it's all habit. It became habit in the beginning. It was habit because I wanted that connection with God so much. I wanted that relationship that out of habit, I would pray out of habit. I would make sure I read my word.

[00:54:12] But one day and it was shortly after I rededicated my life to Christ, I woke up on fire just to pray and to get in my word. And I got into my words so much that my auntie had to say, you spend way too much time. You're over.

[00:54:30] I would literally be in it two or three hours. She said, you need to scale back a little bit because I think I had a million questions. You know, oh, yeah, when I was fresh into it. But now everything is just a part of the routine.

[00:54:46] I was talking to a young lady yesterday and she caught me really early in the morning. Well, it wasn't early. It was early for me because I stayed up late. And she said, oh, I caught you sleeping. And I said, yeah.

[00:55:01] And I talked to her for a few minutes because I did not want to not answer the phone because she just lost a loved one. And I let her talk for about 30 minutes. I said, I'd never do this.

[00:55:12] I'd never do anything before I go into my prayer room and pray. Everything comes after that. So I did, you know, for that circumstance, because I understand when you lose a loved one. But yesterday was the first time that I've done that in my walk.

[00:55:31] I won't even let my husband have a conversation with me. And we're in the same bed before I roll out that bed, come in here and pray. And then we have a conversation. It's habit now because I feel like for me, you know, starting my day that way,

[00:55:53] everything that comes my way, I can handle it good, bad indifference. And plus, I want to honor my father. He's a jealous guy. He said put nothing or no one before him. So I don't even brush my teeth. I'm just in here just going at it.

[00:56:09] Yeah, you know, I love that you said that about your husband, because my husband is like in the beginning, he would like, like, I have this routine in the morning and I have the same routine at night where I listen to

[00:56:25] specific apps or things before I go to sleep and before I do my prayer and before I wake up. So now he knows before he would like come in, having a conversation with him. I just look at him like and then I'm like,

[00:56:42] and I'm like, yeah, not now, honey. Later. Right. But you know what? I'm excited for you. I'm excited for myself. And I know we're going to grow and go and do the things that God wants us to do.

[00:56:57] Do you have a favorite book in scripture in the Bible? I do, actually. It's one that we debated a lot with my cousins. I absolutely love Providence. When I started my journey again, that was the first book that I read.

[00:57:14] And for me, it was all about teaching me how to be that, you know, Providence 31 women waking up early, learning about your husband, how to be a good wife and how to build a business. It was it was a lot like at the same time I was like,

[00:57:34] Proverbs is mean. I was like, did God just call me stupid? Like, I was like, you know, oh, yes, yes, it can be a little harsh. Harsh. I absolutely love it. I think it gives you that harshness is genuinely like,

[00:58:01] you know, like when you're raising a child, right? You have to be firm and you have to be honest with them because they won't learn. You have to have that discipline. And without Proverbs, I wouldn't have that discipline.

[00:58:15] I wouldn't be able to grow or raise my kids or be the wife that God intends for me to be without Proverbs. I love, love, love Proverbs. Like it was I think because it was the first book that I read when I came back

[00:58:30] on my journey, it's just stuck with me. And it's been it's been my it's been my rock. It is. It's a great book. It's the Book of Wisdom and Understanding. That's my favorite thing out of there. I remember I did start at the beginning in the Old Testament.

[00:58:47] I'm an Old Testament girl. I love it because I think for me, it keeps me grounded because God didn't play back then it was do it or, you know, he was open up the ground and let the whole tribe fall through.

[00:59:04] You know, he didn't play back then when he said, do it. You needed to do it. Moses and Miriam and and Aaron, Aaron and Miriam learned they less is talking about Moses behind his back. You know, he just did not play. So for me, it keeps me grounded.

[00:59:22] But also once I stopped a little bit in the Old Testament and I went over to Proverbs the first year and it literally it was like the words was jumping out the page and like you said, the guy just called me stupid. But it was it was you.

[00:59:44] All of this is for you because you know that even though you turned your life over, you know, you still have those tendencies because we're always fighting the flesh. And my auntie explained it to me like that. She said, don't be so hard on yourself

[01:00:03] because you walked around in that flesh for 52 years. So it's going to be it's going to take that long or probably longer for you to tame all that stuff that you used to do. But you continue on a daily basis to apply God's word. But Proverbs is something.

[01:00:22] But I love it because it's a book of wisdoms. And when he said, and I read out of all of them, make wisdom your sister and understanding your next to kin. That was that that did it for me. But he did compliment us a couple of times.

[01:00:41] They did tell our sons and daughters to wear our wisdom around their neck like a girl. They compliment us a couple of times. So you educate women and women empowerment. What are some of the things you do to help? And you probably already answered that question. And if.

[01:01:08] Because we did talk about it, let's put it with relationships, with marriages. Is it just marriages? Because you did tell me what you'd like to see in women empowerment and what you do. What about relationships? Because I saw women's empowerment and I

[01:01:25] agree that the fact that you do relationships as well. What is your desire to bring to your clients when you're counseling them in a relationship? So with relationships, I do relationships as couples. Yeah, but I also do relationships with families and friendships.

[01:01:45] So, yeah, for me, the reason why I went and did relationships as well as Christian coaching, why I really wanted that relationship coach to be in there because I'd experienced a lot within my partner relationships and mostly with my friendships. I had gone through a lot of, like,

[01:02:10] friendship heartbreaks and friendship breakups that I feel like for me, I really want to teach, I don't want to say teach, but I want to help people have authentic relationships with all my friendships. I can honestly tell you the friends I have today are the only friends I've

[01:02:34] ever been my true self with. And we are talking, how old am I? Now I'm going to say how old I am. We are talking 28 years. Yeah, yeah. For me, I feel like when it comes to relationships,

[01:02:49] I really want to guide people on how to build, like, equally yoked friends. That is all that we can ask for, friends that pray with you, friends that worship with you and friends that accept you for who you are.

[01:03:07] One of the biggest reasons why I focused on, like, friendships is because when I started my journey of actually, you know, starting to find myself and who I truly was, one of my friends said this to me. Well, friend, friend, I say.

[01:03:28] She said that, but we don't want you to change. We like the old tantrum. And that really sat with me because I was like, but I do need to change. I'm now a mom and I'm a wife. I do need to become a different person.

[01:03:46] And without change, there's no growth. I can't be the same person that I was when I was 18 years old. That doesn't work. That's right. You gotta keep growing. And for me, so that's why I wanted to just concentrate on, well, you know,

[01:04:04] to focus on having friendships that are really real and accepting of the true person and that people can be themselves and be comfortable with who they truly are. And that also works out with the same with like relationships as your couple.

[01:04:21] Like as a couple, me and my husband, we went through a lot like we have seen the enemy try to break us up many times. But God was like, no. So for me, I really want to teach couples how to communicate

[01:04:37] because I've seen that all couples do not know how to communicate. They rush into relationships because they think that I am now 25. I am 20 or whatever, 34 and I am not married. I just need someone here so that, you know, I can, you know, keep a balance with society.

[01:04:55] But actually, they don't really know the ins and outs of the relationship. Once you're living with that person, what it's going to be like, they're going to leave the toilet seat up there. Clothes are going to be everywhere.

[01:05:04] And you have to adapt who's going to be cooking, who's going to be cleaning, because we're not in the 70s anymore. People like husband and wife do equal things in this house. Like we are both, you know, doing something like he has his specialties.

[01:05:22] For example, like he'll bake. But then you get another household where the man is like, I don't step foot in a kitchen, but you can. There's nothing wrong with you stepping foot in a kitchen. I'm not saying you have to.

[01:05:34] But then it's about communicating that with your partner and saying that, you know, I don't really like this, but then I like this. Like I've got a friend who his wife doesn't like cooking. But they had that conversation and then

[01:05:49] they both came to an agreement and said, OK, we'll hire a chef. Because they communicated. Right. And those are the things that I want to teach people. Like relationships are not easy. They're not like you just live together and you guys are happily ever after.

[01:06:07] This is not Cinderella. This is reality. Like they're going to be ups, they're going to be downs. But it's how you manage them that matters. And then obviously, you know, you've got the relationships with families, the in-laws and then your family. You're we we go deep. Yeah.

[01:06:29] And I'm glad that you said that because, you know, they, you know, although our Bible teaches us you forsake your mother and father when you get your partner, they still in this day and time play a significant role in relationships and the biblical days, not so much.

[01:06:48] I mean, you've seen the stories where they married and everybody went and had their own tribe, but, you know, and and in this day and time, just like with our children, what I feel like sometimes social media raised 75 percent of them.

[01:07:08] I got to call it like I see, but also in relationships, boundaries. I think we're you know, the younger the in-laws are or the younger the couple is. They don't know how to set boundaries. I know I've had my fair share and because they feel like they're older,

[01:07:30] it's I wouldn't say not respect for the marriage, but you still don't know. As we do as parents, we tell our children, oh, you still don't know. And I can say that speaking as a divorcee and married again for eight years.

[01:07:43] And this one, me and my husband, we rushed into this one. We rushed. We met. We thought we had so much in common. We got married in less than a year and everything was up and down, up and down. It's like an emotional roller coaster.

[01:07:59] And we just thought it was going to be a match made in heaven because both of us was Christians. Well, there's a concept to that, too. Just because both of you love Jesus Christ does not mean you're going to agree on everything because you were raised

[01:08:13] a certain way, I was raised a certain way. And so it's been every day is not a good day. So I'm glad that you tapped in on that, not just for the hubby and the wives or vice versa, but the in-laws, the family members,

[01:08:30] the friendships and some people have best friends. I've got a girlfriend that we've gone on a 40 year friendship. So I had to where we're used to chatting every day. You know, I had to decipher. I had to kind of, hey, I'm married now.

[01:08:50] And then I had one friendship that was 30 years that I had to let go because she was single and she just did not. I wouldn't say she didn't get it, but she kept overstepping boundaries. Even explain it in plain English, I'm married now.

[01:09:06] And it was it was a heart wrenching thing to do. But I have to tell you, it felt better than going to sleep trying to decide who am I going to hurt? Am I going to be able to get to my marriage?

[01:09:22] Am I going to answer this phone at eight o'clock in the morning or 12 o'clock at midnight and she's single and I know what it's going to be about. So literally the day that I did that, I felt 100 percent better.

[01:09:37] And sometimes I heard about it is it came back full circle. Now we speak again and now she knows her boundaries, you know, and it took us like five years apart to get those boundaries in place. But now she understands her boundaries. Yeah, no, it's true.

[01:09:54] That happens. Like I've got a friend that we're still talking for years and years, but now we are so close. Our children are close and our husbands are close. But I think sometimes God just needs you to have that break. Sometimes you need that break to go

[01:10:12] find yourself and really meditate on your friendship and see why it's important. And I believe that at the right time, if that friend is meant to be in your life, God will bring them back full circle. That's right. That's right. I love it. I love it.

[01:10:28] I really enjoyed your conversation today. I learned a lot, I mean, especially that last part, because I'd never thought about it that way. You know, relationships is just not a man and a woman. Are you doing anything new?

[01:10:45] Do you got any books, seminars, online stuff that you want to tell the audience about that they can engage in? Yeah, actually, yesterday I launched my three week intensive. So that launches like monthly and I launched it again for this month. But it was different.

[01:11:09] Normally, it's a group coaching program. But then I took the decision to make it a one to one coaching program because I wanted to really be tailored to the individual person. What I found was that when it's a one to one,

[01:11:27] I'm more able to really focus on the needs of the clients and really focus on how that individual client can strengthen their relationship and how they can find their purpose. But within a group was a bit more difficult because there's many of them, you know.

[01:11:46] So, yeah, so I recently launched that and I have got a few bonuses in there. The first six people to sign up and get one month free in the membership, which is called Heavenly Sister Circle. And then they also get a bonus one to one session.

[01:12:07] So instead of three sessions, they get four sessions. And yeah, I'm really excited about that. Like I feel like, you know, when you have that feeling that, you know, OK, God is doing something and then the enemy is trying to pull you back. Yes. That's how I feel.

[01:12:23] I feel like right now, like this God's about to do something and the enemy is really trying to block me from, you know, moving forward. But I am not about to let him. I am a child of God and we're about to do big things in this world.

[01:12:36] That's right. We're kingdom kids. Yes, we are. I'm going through the same thing. I got asked to MC a conference at my grandmother's home church. And it seemed like it's an August. But in this last month, everything is just being something every day.

[01:13:00] And me and my auntie looked at each other the other day and we said, God is up to something. This thing is going to be just awesome because Satan is trying his best to throw all kinds of obstacles and I am here for it all day.

[01:13:15] I told her, I said the week of we're just going to go into a fast and I'm going to be like, oh, go ahead. I want to back it up a little bit. Go ahead. Go ahead. I don't know why the enemy is like, oh, he's so annoying.

[01:13:33] Like, why can't he just let us be happy? Like, it's like when that it's initially when things are about to look up or get good, he will come knocking like, no, I do not need you in God's kingdom. You need to be mine.

[01:13:47] It's like, no, my God is more powerful than you may. So step back. You have already been defeated, Satan. You have already been placed under his feet. You can he's on his job, though. He's on his job to devour souls and he knows that his time is limited.

[01:14:08] So we got to be on our job as kingdom kids 24 seven. Like he's on his job. We got to put on our armor. We got to put on all our armor and be on our job. I want to back it up just for one second.

[01:14:21] And then we're going to close out. We were talking about relationships and how do you cancel, you know, in relationships? Do you ever cancel married couples one on one before you bring them together? Because I've seen that done before. Yes.

[01:14:42] So more times what I'll do is I'll have like a woman that has come and they want to talk about their relationship and all these things, and then I offer them like their session individually. And then I ask them if they want to bring in their husband.

[01:15:00] And sometimes you do get that husband that's a bit hesitant. That's like, but why? We're fine. I don't need this. But then once they get into it and they're like, OK, like, this is quite good. Let's try this and do this. Yeah, it's good.

[01:15:21] Like so they do start off as just the woman that comes, you know, because they would have found me on social media and stuff. But then I will then try to coach them both at the same time. And one of the things that I'm looking into,

[01:15:37] my husband is probably going to hear this as I say it now, because I have not told him yet, but it's been in my heart. Go for it. It's to do couples coaching. So like the two of us coach other couples. Yeah, yeah.

[01:15:55] I'm looking into like some trainings for us as a couple so that we can coach other couples, because I think sometimes it's like what I found in my coaching, like it's good that other women come to me and they see from my experience.

[01:16:08] But then it's also good for couples to see from our experience. You know, I mean, yes, it's one of my goals. Yeah, well, that's fabulous. That's fabulous. Well, I hope I didn't get you in trouble, but I love big news. I love big news.

[01:16:28] Tell my audience because you have been a pleasure and I want them to be able to go over and see you at all the places they can find you website, YouTube, Instagram, Facebook. Do you have all that stuff and where can they find you?

[01:16:45] So I am mostly on Instagram and I've got a website making life easier. I have literally called everything Life Coach Tentra Paul. So wherever you need to find me, if you type in Life Coach Tentra Paul, I will be there.

[01:17:04] And you can message me, DM me, book a call, whatever you want. I'm there for you. OK, so I have something scrolling on the bottom and I put everything that I've seen is that is that still a direct way that they can get to you?

[01:17:21] Yes, it is. That's perfect. So as I've got it scrolling at the bottom of the screen, Tentra, is there anything else you'd like my audience to know before we go today, it has been a pleasure talking to you.

[01:17:34] I love candid conversations and like you said, just being transparent and not just shooting a bunch of questions because it's a sisterhood, it's a brotherhood. We're family and we should be able to sit down and have these conversations. So I love it.

[01:17:50] And I thank you for coming on to the show. Thank you so much for having me. Honestly, it's been such a pleasure. And one thing I would say is that be you like God really created us and he knew who we were before we were

[01:18:08] even in our mother's wounds, he knew who we were. So start embracing the person that you were created. The Bible tells us to love your neighbor as yourself. And my biggest thing is if you don't love yourself, how can you love your neighbor?

[01:18:25] So learn to love yourself and be who you are and be the authentic person that God created you to be. That's right. That's right. You heard it here. You guys heard it here. Tedra, thank you so much for coming. That was great advice. Be your authentic self.

[01:18:44] Because if you're not authentic, you can't be any good for anybody else because they're going to get the imposter you, not the you. And I, your girl been there. I know that's a shadow that I'm battling.

[01:19:00] But I have to tell you, I don't think that I want to be any in any of those old circles that I used to be anyway. So if they can't accept this me, the renewed me in Christ, then it is what it is. That's what it is.

[01:19:17] Thank you so much for stopping by. And you are a friend of 12th Street Talkback. If you have anything going on that you say, hey, 12th Street would be the perfect fit for me to have this conversation.

[01:19:30] You're more than welcome to inbox me and I'll get back to you. In the meantime, guys, I have her website pinned to the bottom of the screen. And you can reach her at Life Coach Tadra Paul. She is a Christian life coach as well as empowering women.

[01:19:53] Also relationships and not just any relationships. It could be your hubby. It could be your wife. It could be your in-laws. She's about building a sisterhood. So you guys go ahead and tap into her,

[01:20:09] find her over on Instagram at Tadra Paul Life Coach Tadra Paul and tap in. Follow, follow, follow, share, share, share as well as guys share this love. So much information in this lab. Tap into it. Get into it at 12th Street.

[01:20:30] Talk back on YouTube as well as on Facebook, 12th Street, talk back. God's plan group and 12th Street, talk back. Don't forget, guys, Monday, Wednesday and Fridays, we do Bible study at 1130 a.m. Tap in with your girl. Freedom Fridays on Fridays with amazing guests like Tadra Hall.

[01:20:57] And for those of you that missed it on yesterday, I dropped the gym as well. I started a new show called Unapologetically Seasoned now available on Spotify, Apple, Amazon and I Hard Radio. And it's just Victoria Jay being Victoria Jay. So tap in, guys.

[01:21:21] If you can't do anything else this weekend, be good to yourself. Get yourself in a Bible based church that preaches the word of God. And also, if you can't do anything else, give someone a kind word. But a hot meal goes a long, long way.

[01:21:40] Peace and blessings until next time, if it be in God's will. This podcast is a production of Unfiltered Studios. If you would like to know more about joining Unfiltered Studios, please visit our website at UNFPod.com for more information.