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[00:01:17] What's up guys? It's your girl Victoria J. I just want to give a quick disclaimer about this next episode that you're about to hear. It is my role in true feelings about how I've been feeling during this difficult time for me and my family from 2024 into 2025.
[00:01:43] With that being said, if this triggers you, this is a trigger warning. You may not want to listen because it is about losing our loved ones too. I did say several times as I listened to the replay. I did say several times as I listened to the replay 2023 into 2024 when it should have been 2024 into 2025 as well.
[00:02:09] I wanted to point out that if you're dealing with grief or any type of mental health situations. We had two guests that I just love, love, love. One was Natalie Lamb from It's Your Choice. One was Natalie Lamb from It's Your Choice. One was a great deal with grief as well as mental health. One was a great deal with grief as well as mental health.
[00:02:37] The other one is Kimberly Christian, The Christian Method. And she was on my show as well in season six. Going back over to season six, take a listen. Their information is there, but I will put it in the show notes here if you need it or if you know someone. That needs any type of counseling. Again, thank you for your condolences and peace and blessings.
[00:03:05] I hope you enjoy the show. Welcome back y'all.
[00:03:35] Welcome, welcome, welcome back and happy new year. Welcome back to 12 Streets Outback. It's your girl, Victoria J. Back in the building one more time with my peeps. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. Yes, yes. It feels great to be back in the building with my people.
[00:04:07] Nice and relaxed atmosphere. Just, you know, picking it by myself like I used to with my candles burning, a little bit of low light and just getting my thoughts out. But first and foremost, I hope you guys have been pouring in to yourself. Your girl has been pouring into herself the best way that she knows how.
[00:04:33] You know, guys, you know, God is my everything. And it has been a very difficult and tumultuous time for my family and myself over the last few months. It seems like the end of the year going into the new year. Satan just had his way in my family.
[00:04:59] He took loved ones near and dear to all of us. And it was something. Two, he took my cancer and one, by natural causes. And it just seems like one of the gates of these events, should I say, happened.
[00:05:27] It was so unexpected. I don't even know if I have the right words or I don't even know if I've dealt with my feelings. To be honest with you, it's more like, you know, the first set of people.
[00:05:52] I kind of festered on it and couldn't find the words, couldn't find the emotions, couldn't find the strength. You know how it is. You cry a little, you suck it up. You cry a little, you suck it up. You start to go through photos or walk past a photo and one day you're smiling at a memory and the next minute you're crying. It's a whirlwind.
[00:06:21] I do not wish this on my worst enemy. And this last one with my oldest brother. It was expected. It was not expected. It was soon as it happened. The family had hope because the doctors told us that there was hope.
[00:06:47] That he was a good candidate for surgery. But unbeknownst to us, he had some other things going on that interfered with the treatments of cancer and him doing the chemo and all of that stuff. And long story short, his body just could not handle the shock of it all.
[00:07:18] You know, between finding out he had cancer, having a couple of mini strokes or having emergency surgery on some of his intestines. And it was a lot. And it was a lot. It was a lot. And opening and closing someone up for those who have loved ones that's been through this, you know, cancer sprint.
[00:07:43] And something so small that the physicians was hopeful that he would make it through grew into something bigger. And I said, I didn't want to make this episode about grief. I didn't want to make it about being sad.
[00:08:08] The reason that I hopped on is because first and foremost, I miss this side of being in the podcast world. When I started my YouTube channel a year ago, I was on a mission for the kingdom, you know, doing God's business.
[00:08:23] And I was sure that as well as bringing the daily dose to video and doing live stream, that I also would throw in a couple of episodes that talk about things that was going on in our community, in our nation, in our country, in our states. And I don't think I made it around to doing that, but a few times, if that I know triggers was one of them.
[00:08:54] Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for those who started follow me. Welcome, welcome, welcome to all the new people that have subscribed to the show that support me via Apple, good pods, Amazon, Spotify, pod chaser, and the list goes on or the ones that just hopped on the bandwagon.
[00:09:15] And decided to check out my YouTube channel, whether you stayed or whether you left, at least you checked me out once or twice. So I thank you. Thank you for that. Looking at the backboard, we have picked up a couple countries in small percentages, but I'll take it.
[00:09:37] And the YouTube channel, we went from having, I think, maybe 31, 41 people a year ago, and now we're up to 115. So, you know, yay for that. Thank you for your support. And thank you for all the prayers, all the strength that you sent to me and my family.
[00:10:05] I really, really appreciate it. And I didn't know what I wanted to talk about when I turned on this mic. I just knew that I did not want to talk about grief.
[00:10:19] I don't know if, I don't know if I'm grieving or because I'm the type of person that grief comes to me in a stage that maybe someone else out there is familiar with. I'm usually the toughest cookie when it happens.
[00:10:48] A tear or roll down or multiple tears of roll down. But I've always had to talk myself into putting on my shoes and buckling them up really, really tight, making sure my shoelaces didn't come untied and just handling my business. And then months later, out of the blue, my grief hits me in the worst kind of way.
[00:11:17] This time around, I'm hoping that enough has been enough coming out of 2023 into 2024. But one thing I can say that I'm very comfortable about in this last transition with my brother is I was able to have a conversation that I didn't get to have with other loved ones, the ones that we lost prior to this.
[00:11:47] I didn't have the same conversations with my mother or my sister or my cousin. And it was sudden. And, you know, in several of the cases of losing my loved ones, there was no last conversation by the time the family knew anything. They had already started the beginning stages of transitioning.
[00:12:14] And unless you were a staple at the hospital or hospice, you might have gotten that chance to say a final goodbye or have a final conversation. Because when they're in the beginning stages, sometimes they can flicker back in that one more time before they never say anything again or open their eyes again.
[00:12:44] Orginate for me. This latest, this latest tragedy. This latest loss. I'm searching for the words, guys. And I don't think I'm going to be editing this. I'm going to keep it raw because I want to get these emotions out. I want to get my thoughts out. This latest loss. It was.
[00:13:14] For me. A time to rest. And what I didn't get to do previously. I didn't get to have those last conversations. I didn't get to get that last smile. And this time around, I got to spend a little bit more time with my brother. Not as much as I would have liked. But I got to spend a little bit more time with him.
[00:13:44] I'm the baby out of nine. And we're down to six of us now. And being the baby. It's almost being like that middle child. You know, the first child gets a lot of love and attention. That middle child kind of gets lost in the sauce. And that last child gets a lot of love and attention. Because, of course, they're the baby.
[00:14:12] When you're somewhere kind of sort of in the middle, you kind of get lost in the sauce. And being the baby of the girls, but the older of a brother, I kind of somewhere got lost in the sauce. I used to say that I was the black sheep of the family. I was different. But as it turns out, I'm not the black sheep. I'm just exactly like my mother.
[00:14:42] Through and through. Through the good and the bad. And it took me a while to accept that. Because sometimes we can look at our loved ones, especially our parents, and say, I don't want to be that when I get older. And some of us can look at them and say, I want to be exactly like that. But with all that being said, because I know that I'm all over the place.
[00:15:07] One thing I haven't embraced is my mother's strength, her pizzazz, her sassiness, her classiness, her love for God. And I also embrace all the trauma. Because I got to witness it firsthand.
[00:15:35] And lucky for me, I took her trauma and the best parts of her. And I chose to use the best parts and the lessons for a better me. I used to shun the tragically difficult parts, if that's a word. And I used to get mad and get angry and sad.
[00:16:05] But as I grow my relationship with Christ, and I'm older in age, I can look at things a little bit different. And we all can say, well, I would have done something different if I was that person or if that would have happened to me, right? But you never know until you're sitting in it.
[00:16:28] You may have your own set of circumstances that look very, very and feel very, very similar to something you've seen your parents or one of your loved ones go through and say, that's not going to be me. Or you can take their tragedy. And when you learn that you're going through the same exact thing, you can choose to reflect on how they handled it, how you would like to handle it.
[00:16:55] And hopefully, it can go as smooth as possible. Because I don't think anything that we come up against that's hard or difficult for us, we're always going to have a smooth transition. It's always going to be a hiccup. It's always going to be something that makes us feel even worse before it gets better, if that makes sense.
[00:17:21] So with my brother, getting back to that, I got an opportunity to speak with him while he was still up and walking and moving around. Even though day by day, you could see him deteriorating and getting smaller and smaller.
[00:17:41] I got the opportunity to sit and talk with him in and out of the hospitals, whether it was getting another surgery or staying there weeks at a time because his body just wasn't doing what it was supposed to do. I got the opportunity to talk to him. And I got an opportunity to talk to him in a different way, in a grown-up way.
[00:18:08] In a grown-up way, and talk about serious and difficult things. Most of you guys that follow my show, you do have a relationship with Christ, whether you claim it as Christianity, religious, or spiritual.
[00:18:27] And I got an opportunity to talk to him about transitioning and turning his life over to Christ. Renewing his relationship with Christ. And I got to do that several times because it's difficult. And I can't even imagine what he was thinking when he got the news.
[00:18:54] Nor my brother-in-law, when we lost him in November. I can't begin to imagine getting that type of news and someone sitting in your face and talking to you about Christ, our Lord and Savior.
[00:19:19] As I was doing it, I felt comfortable enough to do it. But at the same time, I didn't want to come off as uncaring. But I also had a job to do. Something that our Heavenly Father sent me to do.
[00:19:45] And something that I feel like over the last couple years, and it's been longer than a couple, but I always say couple. What he has deposited in me.
[00:20:03] I think that, in fact, I'm pretty sure that he was preparing me to be that strong one. The vocal one. To talk about our Lord and Savior in this time. In their lives.
[00:20:29] Nobody is prepared to go into a doctor's appointment. Or you could be like my brother just was sick and couldn't keep any food down and just thought it was something so, so different. And come out.
[00:20:49] Finding out that you have cancer and you're right there on the blink of the last stages. And some specialists said there was hope and some said, I don't think so. You know, people were scratching their heads.
[00:21:12] So, trying to listen to someone give you a voice of reason and establishing a relationship with our Heavenly Father can be a little bit difficult. I would think when you've got this in the front of your mind.
[00:21:40] But, glory be to God, we were raised in a Christian household. Even with the bad. And I always said, you know, I thank God that my parents gave me something to hold on to. Which is our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.
[00:22:00] Because even when I wasn't walking the walk and wasn't talking the talk, I always knew that God was with me. In the moments where I was wiling out and not caring about anything or anyone, just wanting to have fun, live life. To tragic moments such as these.
[00:22:28] Or heartbreaks or divorce. I still knew how to pray. I still knew how to put up my Bible and find a word that could lift me. Even if it was for a moment.
[00:22:46] So, in saying all of that, I didn't get those opportunities with my mother, my sister, my brother-in-law, or my mother-in-law that also passed. And all these people held a very special place in my heart. I had a rapport with them.
[00:23:14] And it's one of those things I don't think that you would ever get used to or wrap your head around. But when it happens the way it happened, coming out of 23 into 24. For me, it didn't make me scratch my head.
[00:23:39] It made me say, hey, thank you God for allowing me to be able to talk to my brother about you. And remove myself. Because it's not about me. B, I didn't have to put on a pretense and try to make him laugh or do something to take his mind off of it.
[00:24:03] Knowing, just the thought of knowing that you only have a couple days or a couple months before you no longer would be here. And then people try to come to you to lift your spirits and make you think about something else. Tell a joke or remind you of a funny story.
[00:24:23] I can tell you firsthand, no one that knows, that actually knows that they're going to leave this earth within days or months. Some don't want you to try to take their mind off of it. They want you to tell them the real. They want you to tell them the real deal. What's on your heart.
[00:24:48] And some, if they have wronged you, is the words I'm looking for. They want the opportunity to say I'm sorry without any words being passed. Without them actually saying that they're sorry. They want that peace when you walk into their room or wherever you may be.
[00:25:17] They want to pick up like nothing even happened. They want to just fall into a conversation with you without having to say they're sorry.
[00:25:34] And if you are a forgiving, loving, decent human being, you would already know that and you shouldn't be expecting an apology. However, there are those certain circumstances. Well, people need that. I'm sorry. I apologize.
[00:26:04] And some need to go into discussing how they wronged you or how you wronged them. Different strokes for different folks. But in my experience, the last couple months, most people want to just know that you're there for them. And that you love them.
[00:26:29] And what's understood does not have to be explained. And I don't think as human beings, we should add anything else to anybody's plate. And we know and they know that they only have a couple months or a couple days to live. That's just my opinion.
[00:26:58] So with that being said, being able to talk to him about our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, as well as other things. That made me feel really, really good inside. Because as I was beginning to say before, I think the last couple years, God has been preparing me to do something that my older siblings couldn't do.
[00:27:26] And I wouldn't even say couldn't do. Maybe just didn't want to do or just felt uncomfortable doing that. And God gave me the boldness to have that conversation, to be able to pray and ask for repentance, forgiveness.
[00:27:48] And talk to my brother in such a way about God's word that it came out like someone reading a storybook instead of preaching the word of God to them. And I thank God today for that.
[00:28:16] I thank God for the fact that I was able to be straightforward and loving at the same time. Because it made him open up just a little bit more to me. And sometimes people want to tell you stuff. And it stays just with you.
[00:28:46] Maybe they have a message for everyone. A different message for everyone that they love. But it's something about receiving that special message that is just meant for your ears. That you can hold near and dear to your heart. As well as in the transitioning.
[00:29:15] Emergency arise. It was always an emergency after an emergency. With all of my loved ones that passed. Where you know you find yourself going up to the hospital. It's like a revolving door for a while. The week before he actually passed.
[00:29:41] There was something that happened at the hospital that sent him into, I guess a semi-coma. And I rushed over to the hospital. And I was sure that he couldn't hear me. Because he wasn't responding. But it was, his eyes were wide open. But he couldn't respond.
[00:30:09] And it was almost as if he was snoring and sleeping with his eyes open. Well, come to find out. My sister said he does sleep that way. But I kept shaking him and shaking him. And he didn't respond. But glory be to God, later on that evening, as my oldest sister got there, she said, He's awake.
[00:30:38] He can barely talk. You have to kind of make out what he's saying. He's in and out. And I happened to be on the phone. And I said, say to him, ask him, does he remember me coming over to the emergency room? Because I shook and shook him. And he just would not respond. And she said he shook his head vigorously. That he remembered me being there.
[00:31:05] And I remember shaking him and holding his hand and rubbing his head. Because my brother, if anybody knew him, he always wore his hair really, really, really clean, shaved. And months and months of being in the hospital, his hair had started to grow back.
[00:31:28] And I never knew that my brother had the prettiest hair that just laid there like when a newborn baby is born. And they got a head full of hair and it just lays, just stick straight. And it just seems like it just lays so perfect that all you got to do is just rub it. And it'll fall back in place. For all my mothers, you know what I'm talking about. Dads too.
[00:32:00] And he remembered that moment. The moment that I was sure that was my last to have a conversation. So, I don't know guys. I don't know that.
[00:32:25] I don't know that I am going to continue to grieve. Because I have a certain, especially with this one. I have a certain sense of closure that I did not have in the rest of the cases. So, when I got the news, I'm going to be sitting in my car.
[00:32:54] And for any of you guys that follow me on a regular, and especially my podcast friends and family and network, I happen to be sitting in the car when I got the news that my brother had taken his last breath. And I was on the phone with Shakita Chronicles of a Virgo. We hadn't touched base in a while.
[00:33:23] We usually chop it up here and there over the phone. But my schedule has been all over the place with the dad and loved ones being in and out of the hospital and trying to do the show and be a mom and be a wife. That even, you know, since she's been in the state of North Carolina, we have not got together yet. Which I have said, 2025, we will do that.
[00:33:46] But it just so happened, I happened to be on the phone with her when I got the news that he was gone. And she could probably tell you better than I did. And I did.
[00:34:09] But I screamed a scream of frustration because I wasn't ready. Cried a little bit. And I did what I do. I looked myself in my mirror and said, stop the tears. You can't cry. And I remember her saying, it's okay for you to cry.
[00:34:38] It is not okay for you to hold that stuff in. But me being me, I sucked it up. I talked to her for a few minutes more until I could get my composure. And I hung up and started the busy work. Started calling the loved ones and handling business. So, with that being said, shout out to Shakita from Chronicles of a Virgo.
[00:35:07] As I told you, God knew what I was going to be doing and how I was going to be doing it when I received the news. So, it did. It helped me. We were talking about so many things. The new year. And all the things that God had improved in our life in 2024.
[00:35:36] And how we were going to just add to the wonderful things that he had already done in 2024. This year. We were going to add to increase and advance and make those things that he had already deposited in our spirit. Blossom and flourish. And I thank God for her and for her being there.
[00:36:05] As I sat in my car at the gas station for 45 extra minutes trying to get my composure. We serve a mighty God. That knows us inside and out. And at that particular time, maybe God knew that I didn't need to be around family at that particular time.
[00:36:31] Maybe he knew I needed to be around a friend. A friend. And I have to tell you this. This whole experience has allowed me to look at things in so many different ways. Like what to do next. And I made a decision.
[00:37:00] That not only am I going to celebrate the life of my loved ones. The ones that just passed. And the ones that went on 6 and 10 years ago. I am going to live the best life that I can possibly live. I'm not going to just exist anymore. And I'm actually going to live.
[00:37:30] And it is not until someone really, really close to you leaves. That you start to examine your own life. I've had people pass before. Especially my mom and my sister. My brother-in-law. My mother-in-law. My cousin. And now my brother.
[00:38:02] But it's something about. Ending the year. And starting a new year. With my brother's transition. That made me stop and think. It's okay to cry. But it's even better. To stop existing. And enjoy and live life.
[00:38:31] To the fullest. All those wonderful things. That you put on the back burner. That you hope that you can have time. To do. All those people that you swear. You're going to go visit in the other state. Or perhaps other countries. That you say. In the future. Or even the small things. Like. I've never. I've never. Really sat down.
[00:39:01] And ate dinner. Or lunch. In a restaurant. By myself. All of those things. You start to. Think about. And you start to. Re-prioritize. At least that. Is what. Has just happened to your girl. Not only am I going to live.
[00:39:31] If you thought. That I was. A little bit overbearing. A little bit of. Surely. She can't be this nice. Everybody has a bad side to them. And I do. But if you thought. That I was trying hard before. To be the best person. That I could possibly be. And see the best. In everything. That I could possibly see the best in.
[00:40:00] You haven't seen anything yet. Because I'm going to let my love. And my light. Shine. I'm going to let it pour. Into people. And hope that it rub off. I'm going to start to do some of the amazing things. That I want to do. That's in my means. And I'm even going to try to do some of them. That's outside of my means. Because. The God that I serve. Anything is possible.
[00:40:30] Someone can come along. And pay for that trip. Someone could come along. And offer you. An opportunity of a lifetime. That you've been kicking. And screaming. And clawing. And climbing. To get to. Or it could be possibly that. That you simply just talked yourself out of. Given that 200%.
[00:41:00] To something that you want so badly. Maybe fear set in. Maybe the spirit of rejection. Set in. And there's so many things that swirl around. In our heads. When we have a. Wonderful. Bright. New idea. Some of us. A talk ourselves out of. Taking that step. Even when we know. That it's a good idea. And sometimes. We can look up.
[00:41:30] And someone has taken that idea. And ran with it. A thousand times over. Whatever it is. In my case. I'm going to live life. We just got snow. For the first time. In about four years. In the state of North Carolina. Where I live at. And I actually. Took the time. To walk. And enjoy.
[00:42:01] The snow. Really look at it. Really look how. The sky seems. Just a little bit brighter. When there's snow on the ground. And how pretty it is. When it first fall. What it looks like. On the trees. How it feels. When. The sun starts to shine. And you can hear.
[00:42:31] The drip, drip, drip. And by evening. It's froze over again. All those things. A soul. In our 48 hours. Of snow day. But I said all that. To say this. Losing my loved ones. This past year. Has wakened some senses. In me. For the good.
[00:43:00] Not for the bad. So if I can take. Anything away. From not being able. To see my loved ones again. It won't just be the memories. But it'll be also. Opening myself up. And letting myself feel. And see. And breathe. Everything.
[00:43:29] Than I possibly can. Because a new side of me. Has opened up. New senses. New touch. New feel. New smell. And this time around. I plan to enjoy it. I plan. To enjoy it. And take full.
[00:43:59] Advantage. Of the opportunity. That my loved ones. Left behind for me. You can always find something. Out of a dark situation. If you look hard enough. And that's facts. I wasn't looking. For any positive. Opportunities.
[00:44:28] Any positive facts. Out of losing my loved ones. These last couple months. But it just fell on me. It just fell on me. All the positive things. That I could take away from it. Yes. I'll miss them.
[00:44:58] It's almost like. Watering a flower. Or a plant. Or a tree. Or how about. How seed is. With soil. Or soil to seed. The seeds. Has been planted. In the ground. And my loved ones.
[00:45:27] Just opened up. A whole new world. For me to look at things differently. And in their passing. They're watering me. All the opportunities. That they didn't get. I've been given. It's almost like they left. A small piece. Of themselves.
[00:45:56] With me. All lived. A good life. As best as they knew how. But I'm kind of looking at it like. They want it more for me. More for my siblings. Go out. And do the things. That we didn't get the opportunity to do.
[00:46:25] The door is open. And Victoria. You can walk through it. As I said in the beginning. I didn't want this to be. A conversation. About grief. However. I think I sprinkled. A lot of it in here.
[00:46:53] But as I'm talking. No script. Just my thoughts. I'm feeling more and more. Of the warmth. And the love. And it's almost like I can see. Them saying. And when I close my eyes. They're just smiling. And saying. Go for it.
[00:47:23] Be the best you. That you can possibly be. And we got your back. We got your back. We sacrificed. So that you can be. The best you. That you can be. Don't waste it. Pass. The torch.
[00:47:52] When you get the opportunity. So. And saying that. Again. Thank you for. All the warm. Wishings of. And I wouldn't even say warm wishes. All the. Condolences. All the love. That's been poured out. Over these last couple of months. I can't begin to say.
[00:48:21] How much. It means to me. But I'm not. Going into hiding. If anything. I'm going into full. Throttle. Mode. Sprinkled. With. A little bit of therapy. As well. Because I think that. Even in. Me being.
[00:48:51] Cool. Calm. And collective. I want to make sure. That I'm not suppressing. Something. That may. Tumble. Out of my closet. Later on. And break me. So just. For my peace of mind. I'm going to sit. I'm going to talk with someone. And make sure. That I am going to be.
[00:49:21] The best. Possible. Possible. That I can be. While I'm out here. Spreading my wings. Like an eagle. Peace and blessings. To you all. I hope you have a. Wonderful. Wonderful. Fabulous day. Or night. Whenever you're listening to this. Don't forget. Be good to others.
[00:49:50] Give someone a kind word. If you can. Give them a hot meal. Or shirt. Things that you're donating to the. Local. Thrift shops. Goodwill. Do that. Go that extra mile. Because you just never know. Who you might be blessing. And in our family.
[00:50:20] It gave me the opportunity. To look at that different. I've been saying it for years. Your tribe. Is your family. Most of you know. That I'm out here. Especially in these YouTube streets. Talking. Teaching. Preaching. Whatever you want to call it. The gospel. But I also know. That.
[00:50:51] My family. Is my tribe. And sometimes. We can be out here. Trying to fix the world. When we really need to fix. What's inside our family. Because time. Is the one thing. That you cannot get back. And you may be like your girl. You've had the best. Of both worlds.
[00:51:20] I've had the opportunity. To say goodbye. And I've had the opportunity. That I didn't get a chance. To say goodbye. It was too late. When I arrived. And some. Would say that sucked. And it does. But if you're looking at it. From my point of view. That's the best blessing. That I possibly. Could ever. Got.
[00:51:51] Because I know. What it feels like. To be on both sides. Of the coin. And although. Going through it. Did not feel great. And still does not. I hope and pray. That I'm able to use. This experience. And share it with someone else. In their time of need. And maybe. Just. Maybe.
[00:52:21] They'll have a listening ear. And they'll be able to understand. And I'll be able to lend. My hand. And comfort them. And share my experience. With them. Don't waste time. Holding grudges. Holding on to anger. Especially with your family. And your friends. It's just. Not worth it.
[00:52:50] Don't be that person. That looks back. In your life. And say. I don't know why. We were arguing. Over X. Y. Or Z. And it happened. 10. 20 years ago. When in your quiet time. You're sitting there. Thinking. Man.
[00:53:21] Didn't I. Look like a fool. All this time. Holding on to something. That was absolutely nothing. When I really think about it. And we can't change anyone. We can't change our parents past. We can't change our past. But what we can do. Is give them a past.
[00:53:50] Set boundaries. And do exactly what God said do. Love one another. That's why I love you. Love one another. As I gave myself. Love one another. That's each other's fault. And when you forgive someone.
[00:54:18] Throw it away. Don't. Keep looking for the other shoe to drop. To see if. Your forgiveness. Really made them change. Because the bottom line is. You're not supposed to be looking for the change. You were supposed to forgive. And forget. Forgive.
[00:54:49] Forgive. And forget. Sometimes. You have to forgive. Forget. And move on. So that you can have that inner peace. And sometimes. You'll forgive. You'll forget. And you'll rekindle. Restrike up. Renew. A friendship. Or relationship. With that person. Either way. It goes for you.
[00:55:20] Don't live a life. Wasting a lifetime. A holding on to something. That really doesn't matter. Drama. What happens. More. Than none. Especially. When a loved one dies. Somebody's always. Gotta act the fool.
[00:55:49] There's a situation. Or there's a situation. That always. That always. Comes out. Not so nice. But you be the bigger person. You be the better person. Watch God. Fight your battles. He'll vindicate you. But first. You gotta give him something to work with. And it starts by. Really. Truly.
[00:56:18] Forgiving a person. And being there for them. If you can. Now if this is not your case. Like it wasn't my case. With my brother. Love him. Love him. In those last minutes. Those last moments. And just like the doctors. Give him. All that medicine. And they tell you.
[00:56:47] We're trying to make them comfortable. In their last stages. You be that. For them. Whatever gift. God has deposited. Inside of you. You use that gift. Because only you know. What God whispered to you. To do for that loved one. Peace and blessings. Until next time. We'll catch you. When we spin the block.
[00:57:18] One more time.
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